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7 Helpful Things I’ve Learned in Therapy

Feel free to steal these mental health tips

*Missy*
5 min readNov 17, 2023

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A female therapist speaks to her patient, a black male with long braids
Image credit: Photo by Alex Green

Meeting with the right therapist can change your life — and maybe even save it. Unfortunately, mental health care isn’t easily accessible for everyone. Long wait times for appointments, high copays and deductibles, and hectic work schedules are a few of the barriers that keep people from getting the care they deserve.

If you can’t meet with a therapist or other mental health care provider just yet, you’re in the right place. I’m not qualified to give you medical advice, but I can share some of the best things I’ve learned from therapy. I hope they help you as much as they’ve helped me.

If you’re struggling with stress, mental health problems, or difficult people, keep these seven things in mind.

1) Let it be

You don’t have to fix all of your problems, at least not right away. Sometimes it’s okay to just leave things alone and accept what you cannot change.

I spent years trying to cure my OCD and anxiety with no luck. My therapist finally said, “Let it be,” and that was a game-changer for me. Instead of trying to get rid of my intrusive thoughts or obsessing about my driving-induced panic attacks, I just let them be. Sure, it would be nice to get rid of these symptoms forever, but I can leave them alone for now.

2) Thoughts are just thoughts

Don’t worry too much about your thoughts, even if horrible ones occasionally run through your head. Thoughts are just thoughts, and that doesn’t make them true. It can be easy to forget this in a world obsessed with manifesting positive outcomes, but your fleeting thoughts won’t ruin your life.

You are not your thoughts, and thinking about something doesn’t mean it will come true. You have to take action for that to happen.

3) Other people are not experts on your life

Many people have a parent, friend, partner, or ex who constantly complains about their choices. Ignore them. We all need help sometimes, but when it comes down to it, you are…

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*Missy*

Working through my trauma one story at a time. Thanks for joining me on my journey.