50 Things I’m Ditching in 2023

As people always say — new year, new me

*Missy*

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Photo by Anna Tarazevich

This year was crazy.

But let’s be honest: I say that every December. The holiday season makes me nostalgic, and I tend to reflect on the past while preparing for my future.

Either way, I learn more about myself each year. This is important because it helps me set goals — and boundaries.

With that in mind, here are 50 things that won’t make it to 2023 with me. Maybe some of these will resonate with you as well.

  1. Selfish friends: I’m tired of friends who leave back-to-back audio messages daily — sometimes for 30 or 60 minutes — about their lives yet don’t have 15 seconds to respond to a short text about my day. I wish you well in 2023.
  2. People who treat me like their therapist: I’m happy to listen to your problems sometimes, but I can’t deal with your trauma dumping 24/7. That’s not how friendship works.
  3. People who pressure me to drink: I live a sober life, and I have no plans to change that. Stop pressuring me to drink.
  4. One-sided relationships: I’m not doing all the work in the relationship, regardless of whether we’re friends, family, or romantically involved.
  5. Spammy friends: If I’m good enough to get bombarded with messages about your latest MLM adventure, I’m good enough to get an occasional phone call or lunch date request.
  6. Excessive apologizing: I’m a serial apologizer, but I’m working on it. In 2023, you’ll hear more phrases like “Thanks for being patient with me” instead of “I’m sorry.”
  7. Believing everything my doctors say: Many doctors are brilliant, compassionate practitioners. Sometimes they’re wrong, though — and I need to advocate for myself when something feels off.
  8. Blowing all my money on supplements: Supplements have made my life better, but they can’t solve all my problems. I need to stop running to Amazon every time I get a new diagnosis.
  9. Health anxiety: I can’t tell you how many times I’ve wasted half the day Googling my symptoms and watching videos about serious medical conditions. It’s not productive, and it doesn’t make my life any better.
  10. Saying yes when I want

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*Missy*

Working through my trauma one story at a time. Thanks for joining me on my journey.