50 Things I’m Ditching in 2023

As people always say — new year, new me

Photo by Anna Tarazevich

This year was crazy.

But let’s be honest: I say that every December. The holiday season makes me nostalgic, and I tend to reflect on the past while preparing for my future.

Either way, I learn more about myself each year. This is important because it helps me set goals — and boundaries.

With that in mind, here are 50 things that won’t make it to 2023 with me. Maybe some of these will resonate with you as well.

1. Selfish friends: I’m tired of friends who leave back-to-back audio messages daily — sometimes for 30 or 60 minutes — about their lives yet don’t have 15 seconds to respond to a short text about my day. I wish you well in 2023.
2. People who treat me like their therapist: I’m happy to listen to your problems sometimes, but I can’t deal with your trauma dumping 24/7. That’s not how friendship works.
3. People who pressure me to drink: I live a sober life, and I have no plans to change that. Stop pressuring me to drink.
4. One-sided relationships: I’m not doing all the work in the relationship, regardless of whether we’re friends, family, or romantically involved.
5. Spammy friends: If I’m good enough to get bombarded with messages…